有一个我很爱的人。。。 There is someone whom I love very much…

Posted date : 01.06.10

我有一位我很爱的人，我还没真正登过他的照片，也没写过关于他什么，可是现在想跟你们分享。。。
There is someone whom I love very much, I have never posted this person’s photos here, and have not written anything about this person either, but I feel like sharing with you now…


有兴趣知道他是谁吗？我讲的不是我母亲或家人，是一个对我很特别的人。。。

没叫你猜，但我要你也在这里分享一些感受。。。

分享什么呢？就是当你很爱一个人的时候，你又怎么知道你真的很爱他？你又会为他做什么？

请留言分享吧，看看我们的“爱法”会一样吗？

若留言够多（至少50人以上）和令我满意，我才透露给你们知道我很爱的这个人是谁，而且还会跟你们分享我会为他做什么。。。

Are you interested to know who this is? I am not talking about my mum or family members but someone very special to me…

I am also not asking you to guess, but I want you to share some of your feelings here…

What to share? That is when you really love someone, how would you know you really love this person? And what would you do for this person?

So leave some comments to share and let’s see whether our “method” of loving is similar…

If we get enough comments here ( at least 50 ) and satisfactory to me, then I will reveal to you who this person is that I love very much, and I will also share with you what I will do for this person…

  • http://www.lilomag.com Benny

    做任何事情和有什么开心事第一时间会想到爱的人…无论他/她做过任何多令你心痛伤心的事,最后还是选择原谅和希望他/她能改变. 是这样吗???

  • 感恩の小羊

    其实要说也说不完。。。我只是在此也给与一些私人的看法。。。哈哈！

    如果这个人不是我的家人，不是我的情侣；但我又特别欣赏他或在乎他。。。我会。。。
    1）常常为他祷告。
    2）希望把最好的事物与他分享。
    3）当他不在我的视线内，开始『紧张』他在何处。
    4）当知道他面对难题时，私底下『暗中』『雪中送炭』。
    5）当有好的机会，他切不在场时，就开始骂『怎么搞的？这个人真是。。。。的』。
    6）在他弱的方面帮助他提高水准，也许还会比我更好都『不介意』。
    7）希望他会永远走在神的旨意了，和我一样永远不偏离真道，不会离开主。

    还有很多很多懒惰写了，要睡觉了。。。{￥@￥} zzZZZ

    • 美丽的羊

      *_* *_* ^_^ 。。。。。哈哈哈。。。。。

    • http://smsoh12@hotmail.com Sharon Soh

      写得好！以上所写的七点就是我的心声和经历（我想还有更多还没表达出来的）。

    • Grace Zhang

      All the seven points show that you really CARE that person, you care because you love~

  • Shirley

    if i really love someone, i am willing to serve him or her, even though i feel tire..if i really love someone, i will want to give him or her the best things, if i really love someone, i will forgive his mistakes and do not keep record of his or hers wrongs even though they hurt me …if i love someone, i will pray that he or her knows God and follows God forever..pastor, to love someone is really hard, esp with the kind of love that stated in corinthians.bt, God is merciful, will give us strength!^^

  • http://smsoh12@hotmail.com Sharon Soh

    当很爱一个人时，你的整个世界里（内心）都是他的一切。。。你会用尽一切去保护他，多过保护自己。你宁愿自己受伤也不愿让他受到任何的伤害。你会想尽办法去让他开心，甚至为他付出“无私的爱”。。。！

  • Fong

    不停为他代祷。只要他幸福快乐。这叫爱吗？

  • 美丽的羊

    感恩的小羊说的瞒不错。。。只是后面一句很好笑。。。对我来说爱是不能用言语来表达。。。（其实我没有质格发表爱的意见）。。。

    • 感恩の小羊

      完全赞同！只有那『永生上帝的儿子耶稣』才能真正理解什么叫『爱』。

  • Alison

    Though I know I am not that qualify to talk about love, I would like to take part…. ^_^ I sort of like Gratefull Little Sheep’s comment. I would like to do anything for the one I love….give him the best that I could. Make sure that he is safe and happy and that he follows God’s word and is pleasing to God. The sort of love that God want us to share. May God help me. Amen!

    • GN

      Alison, please don’t say that….you can still talk about love should our God gives you a chance again……

      Personally, I feel that if we love someone, even a slight glance of that person will also make us happy. Moreover, if that person says or comments on certain things which may not be directed at us, somehow we shall “blur blur” do things in favour of him/her without letting him/her know. If we send him/her a sms or email and fail to get a reply from him/her, somehow our mood will be affected. A lot of elders like to say “被人爱是幸福的，爱人是痛苦的” but we also know “It is more blessed to give then receive” so it is kind of confusion here. Maybe we should not attach ourselves to “a person” but to “GOD” only so that in the event when things don’t work out as what we have expected, GOD’s strength will empower us…. :-)

      • 小羊

        Hai ! Sister GN, Apa khabar? Long time no talk liao！嘻嘻！
        对啊！被爱是很幸福；但爱人不是痛苦，乃是快乐耶！（我个人的看法啦！）不管他/她知不知道，领不领情，只要心中不求回报，不去计较，只愿对方活得开心快乐，自己也就会很快乐了。这样，心情就不会那么容易被影响了。
        其实，我们每个人都是“被爱”的~~主那舍命无条件的爱！“神”的爱是永远超过“人”的爱的。求主帮助我们能将祂的爱分享出去，教导我们也能够去爱那些很不可爱的人。

      • GN

        羊羊，真的是你吗？上一次你告诉我那个小羊不是你，所以，我不大敢讲东西.我还好，谢谢你的关心.你呢？为什摩不见了a while ?

      • Alison

        Thanks GN for your sharing.
        Thanks Xiao Yang, what you mentioned is what I mean…..the sort of love God want us to share. Don’t expect anything in return, enjoy the blessing from God, then you can live your life with joy. Amen!

      • 小羊

        Dear Sister GN，这次真的是我啦！有时隔了好几天才来上网；有时是网络不好，上不到；有时是太累了，眼睛都快睁不开。。。。。所以较少出现咯。但我都会记得你们。
        Hai！Dear Alison，你好会祝福人，上帝一定会记念你的。我也要多向你学习。

  • grace chan

    我愿意与他/她分享人生最好的消息，福音
    我愿意为他/她的灵魂向上帝祷告，
    我不愿意看见他/她的灵魂下到火湖里，
    我知道我真的很爱他/她，
    他/她是神给我有机会认识的人！

    每一天，
    我都很想念他，
    我很想听他的心声，
    我很想知道他的心意，
    我很想更多的了解他，
    我知道我真的爱上了他，
    我乐意将我对他的爱情付出在行动里。
    他是我最亲爱的上帝！

    上帝爱世人，他牺牲他的独生子耶稣；
    耶稣爱我们，他牺牲自己，为我们的罪而死。
    爱是包含“牺牲”自己，甚至“牺牲”自己的性命。

    圣经记载着作妻子的，当“顺服”自己的丈夫，
    ”顺服“的确不简单；但感恩！
    圣经记载着作丈夫的，要“爱”你们的妻子，
    “爱”是包含“牺牲”自己的性命，
    换句话说，要为妻子死，更不简单！

    我会为他/她做什么？
    不埋怨的并且很乐意鼓励，帮助，关怀，原谅他/她；
    尽量让我爱的人开心，幸福，得到保护，
    当他/她年老的时候，仍然会对他/她说一句“亲爱的，我爱你”
    当他/她需要我的时候，我会陪他/她们，我亲爱的爸爸妈妈！

    前几天，我的教会来了一位很棒的讲员，他是
    来自加拿大的鄭偉樑博士（Dr. Earnest Cheng）
    他的分享很棒！筑桥者的梦，植树在者的梦。。。
    是关于“怎样营建爱的家园”
    他分享说，“爱”的反义不一定是恨；
    “爱”的反义可以是“莫不关心”。
    我介绍了“蒙福教会”给偉樑博士，
    也想在这里介绍偉樑博士给大家认识 。。
    欢迎参观他的网站：www.Ernest W Cheng.com
    也欢迎参加他的讲座会。。。你真得会很蒙福的！！！

  • bear bear

    当我爱上一个人，我会把所有的东西都丢一边。
    只要我喜欢的，都会变成我不喜欢。
    只要他喜欢的，就会变成我很喜欢。

    脑里，眼里，心里都只有他。。。
    日夜想，分秒想。
    全部的画面都只有他。

  • http://charlene1993@hotmail.com Teresa Ng

    ” A Very handsome photo again “, Haha.Today topic very interesting sharing about how would you know you really love this person? And what would you do for this person…Mnn..normally the heart will tells…n…the eyes too….haha very simple. If you love someone you will be loyal to him no matter what the cost. You will always believe in him,always expect the best of him,and always stand your ground in defending him…..right?somehow will always give the best,care the most,see to his needs,always be there for him,n never hurt him….Love goes on forever….never depart till death only….haha very romantic but where to find….only one …JESUS MY LOVE.

  • sue kho

    Someone i loved…,i will always want to do the best for him/her whatever they needed.I just feel like caring them all the time and let them be healthy and happy. 50 comments is not more than enough to get the answer , pastor ……it must be god that you love the most am i right….?he he…..

  • Jane Doe

    For someone I love, I’ll feel happy if she/he is happy, sad when he/she is sad. If he/she has a problem or in troubles, I’ll find a way to help him/her. I would always want and think of the best for him/her, respecting his/her decisions and encourage him/her even though I may not like the decisions. I’ll feel uncomfortable if I do something that will make him/her feeling uncomfortable. I’ll always consider my actions, whether that would hurt him/her or may make him/her upset or worried. And the hardest part is, to rebuke or correct him/her when he/she is doing something wrong even though that would hurt.

  • lulee

    当很爱一个人时，你的整个世界里都是他的
    只要他幸福快乐
    一切只要他喜欢的，就会变成我喜欢的。
    脑里，眼里，心里都只有他。。
    分分秒秒想的都只有他。。。。。。
    无论他做过任何多令你心痛伤心的事,最后还是选择原谅他。。。。
    我很想听他的心声，心意
    我很想更多的了解他，
    我知道我真的爱上了他，
    我乐意将我对他的爱情付出在行动里………………
    i still can wait untill he getting married……这叫爱吗？

    • http://gmail.com john

      That’s is secret admiration not love. When he gets married, definitely u will
      be hurted. Try , and tell him the truth of your feelings, if answer is negative,
      put your heart on the next one who will love u back. And, it will be a happy
      ending.

      • Alison

        Good advice….I should have read this yesterday..then I know how to comfort an emotional lady from 11 pm till 3:30 am and made myself emotional also. >.<))

      • http://gmail.com john

        Autie Alison,
        I missed one major point…
        If u didnt ask the person u admired and go for 2nd one who
        will love u back, there will be a shadow in the heart and your
        heart will not be pure and ready for the 2nd one, and it is
        not fair for doing it. It’s my personal experience. Clear the
        doubt 1st and your heart will be pure and receive the true
        love u are expecting! No hard feelings just for the asking,
        sometimes, it will turn up to be a closed friend instead.
        Always thank the one who admires you, and u should
        open your heart to bless him/her even the answer is negative.
        No harm for asking, u definitely want to know the answer b4
        u start new again, agreed?

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000349727253 Alison Yu

        Thanks John, for the long explaination and I agree with what you say…see if I can talk some sense into her.. Anyway, I had advice her to go to Pastor’s blog to read all the comments which might help her..she is a non-believer and very confused at the moment. I have to pray for patience to talk to her. I hope by coming to Pastor’s blog, she might receive Christ.

  • Ho Pei San

    当你很爱一个人，你会很怕伤到他的心，你无论做什么都会考虑到他的感受。你会努力地为他改变自己，只为了让自己能够配得上那么好的他。你的喜好也会因着他而有所改变，而且是甘心乐意的。因为爱他，你能包容他的过错。也因为爱他，你会严厉责备，只为了不要让他继续错下去。你只会永远觉得你为他所做的还不够，不会计较你为他付出了多少。

  • Emmanuel Reuben

    i love someone too…. But, there is first thing first….

  • Grace Zhang

    When I am in love with someone, I want to be with the person not 24/7, but as much as we can. I want to share my thoughts, happiness, sadness with the person and hope we can build up a solid relationship in Christ. I wanna do lots of things with that person to make each other to be a better one every day, and together to make some efforts to our surroundings. I also want to have tons of unforgettable memories with that significant one, so we still have many topics to talk about when we are fairly old…

  • http://www.google.com mikeling

    If I find a girl who I longed for, this time, I have to be extreme bold to ask her!Her answer once confirmed,I wont let her go at all circumstances.Upon both parties’cultivation,love will prosper.Admirable secret love without asking wont result.(2 failures taught me painfully). 33years old already,no kidding.
    Love between a man and a woman(preferably both are christians) is so wonderful,no boundaries @ all aspects.She will be my wife forever,serious!Just love her dearly without any reasons,conditions etc.1000% follow my own heart.No hindrances,obstacles,suspicions from people, family members etc. will distract my heart for her. Just want to hold her hands tight till getting old together.
    Dont speark hurting words.Dont mould her to my standard of perfections.Love her just the way she is.Each person is made by God uniquely!
    God’s love is mighty great,supernatural and very spiritual, human love must be practical with firm actions,common sense,emotions&acknowledgements!Love will progress upon God’s blessings until the last breath.When both of us look back,it is so worthwhile living.

  • 美丽的羊

    唉。。。其实爱不只是男女之间的爱而以。。。唉。。。为什么一讲到爱，我们每个人都想到男女的爱。。。还是求耶稣的爱多多充满。。。宝血多多洁净。。。(^_^)

  • 感恩の小羊

    哈哈。。。这边变成『爱的诉说频道』了。。。

  • http://deleted 绣芩

    **学生们的留言。。。

    * 晋慷：当我很爱那个人的时候，我会很想很想他，每次想看到他，每次想找他和他一起吃东西，每次想找机会和他说话，每次想帮助他。我会为他做工，比如：帮助他扫地，煮菜给他吃，让他能轻松一点。我会努力兼（赚）钱为他买大大间的房子，里面有大大的电视和其他的家具等，就像牧师的家一样有游泳池的家。我会帮他捶背和帮他洗脚。我还会每次带他出去玩，比如：Damai，新加坡，Taiwan，美里，中国和其他的地方。我也会买两辆车，一辆给我，一辆给他。

    * 晓薇：如果我爱他，我会每天想到他，每天都想SMS 给他，打电话给他，去到那里都会想买东西送给他，会很想约他一起去Shopping。我会为他祷告求耶稣每天保护他。我会为他做事，让他不要那么的辛苦。我会为他付出一切，与他分担他的悲伤痛苦。

    * 欣怡：1我每天会很想念他。2 我会常常SMS给他。3 我看到他我会觉得他很可爱。4看到他我就会很高兴。5 我会帮他做家务。 6 当他有困难时我会帮他。7 生病时我会细心得（的）照顾他。7 肚子痛时我会给他药吃。8 我会煮很好吃的菜给他吃。 9 当他生日时我会送礼物给他。

    * 思薏：我爱他，我就会时时刻刻的想到他，见到他时我会很开心，我会跟他讲我的心事，每天都会约会他。我也会尊敬他，体谅他，在他有困难时给予他帮助。当他伤心时给予他安慰。鼓励他，支持他。

    * 诗怡：1我每天每夜的在想着他的脸。2 他生病时，我会在旁边细心的照顾他。3 我会给他一个幸福美丽的家庭。4 当他出门时我会帮他整理一些东西。5 我遇见他我会很高兴。6当他遇到困难时我会帮他。7 当他寂默（寞）时我会哄他开心。

    * 佩璇： 如果爱一个人，我会用不同的方法去爱那个人，使那个人过的是幸福快乐的生活。如果爱他，我就会常常想到他。我无论到那里去，我都会想买东西给他吃，我也会常常陪着他和他一起去玩。每天早上，当我刚睡醒时，我会马上去向他说声“早安”。我会每天煮很丰富的食物给他吃。我会给他一个幸福的家庭，让他过着的是快乐的日子。当他有困难时，我会伸出双手帮他解决困难。当他觉得无聊时，我会陪他一起聊天，让他不觉得无聊。当他生病时，我会为他祷告，让他早日康复。我会让他的生活无忧无虑，过着幸福快乐的生活。如果这个世界没有爱，我想这世界就会只有仇恨。我觉得爱的力量很大，所以，我要把爱的一切奉献给他，我要和他说耶稣，他就是我的妈妈。

    • Grace Zhang

      Pastor Lim, please count this message that is typed by 绣芩 as 6 comments yo, b/c I saw at least 6 different names here~

    • http://deleted 绣芩

      学生们的答复，让我一直的在思考。。。反思。。。同时也给了我一个教导。。。
      我们人可以为着自己心爱的人付出那么的多，做那么多“美好”“甜蜜”的事，任何事都会为他着想。。。可是，我们又曾为主付出多少？为主做过什么？又否曾静心的想一想主的心情呢？
      看着这些小小年纪的学生们所写的，心里难免会很伤痛。。。他们是那么的“小”，但已会为着自己的未来“幻想”出那么多“美妙”的事。。。但是，在每日的生活中，我们又曾为主计划过多少。。。为主计划过什么呢？又否曾静下心来想一想，我要如何的事奉主？。。。
      唉！人心的“复杂”。。。求主赦免。。。也求主保守我们的心。。。不要因为这些因素因此使得我们与神的关系逐渐疏远。。。因而忘了与神亲近的时间。。。

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=669834010 Timothy Nicholas Chin

    你好～～牧师～～我是甲洞kepong的那位弟兄～～和你合照的～
    记得我吗？？
    如果找到一位爱上帝的人～～大家做什么都会以上帝为中心～～
    那么无论对方做什么～～都是来自上帝的爱～～这感情可以走很长远的～～
    因为做的一切都是那爱的源头～～

  • 小羊

    当很爱一个人的时候～
    会对他/她牵肠挂肚
    处处都会为他/她设想
    凡事都会与他/她一同分享，不分彼此
    他/她哀伤的时候，我也伤心，但会安慰鼓励他/她
    他/她开心快乐时，我会比他/她更开心快乐
    他/她若受苦，我宁愿自己为他/她受苦
    总之，他/她的事就是我的事
    只求付出，不求回报
    爱是无条件的！

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=669834010 Timothy Nicholas Chin

    一起生活中～～在教会一同侍奉上帝～～一同经历神的恩典～～一同为彼此代祷～～散会后一同去逛街～～一同吃晚饭～～

    紧张彼此～～注重彼此的需要～～
    还有好多～～好多～～～

  • douglas…

    Hi pastor….
    I think that loving someone is wonderful.Why are you so hesitant in showing it and seem so unsure of your own feeling?!Love is just like curry,it mix with a lot of spices like our heart which have a lot of feeling and sometimes it will feel sweet and sometimes it will feel sour like an apple…

  • CW

    爱 是 付出… 爱 是 忍耐… 爱 是 包容… 爱 是 原谅…

    • CW

      爱 是 体贴

  • Lil_amz13

    真爱一个人，会一辈子记得他，多少都会因为他而影响自己的一些思想和行为。在他有需要的时候会义不容辞伸出援手，甚至容许自己遭受损失也义无反顾吧。

  • http://yahoo.com catherineng

    Once,I was attracted by a man who first showed interest and feelings for me…later, I began to fall for him deeper n deeper. There was no improvement but only eyes to eyes contact.
    I became bold and tried to get near and want to find out the truth whether he is really serious? But to my disappointment, friends with him could sense his feelings for me but he
    has been acting ‘normal’ where really hurted me. I could have love him with all my heart but I did not know how? As if he loves himself more than anybody else. I have fallen for someone who did not have gut to really love a girl he likes. After a while, I shut up my heart for him and left for Johor to work. This incident really hurted me badly and I cried a lot. However, I began to believe in Jesus who saved me from this difficult situation. From that moment onwards, God gives me wisdom to open my eyes that I should not fall for someone who loved himself more than anything else. Thank GOD for helping me to get out of the hurts and move on. I am confident that God will send someone who will love me with all his heart like Jesus does. Amen.

  • wong e -zin

    爱…一个人是一直把“他/她”放在心深处明白了解“他/她”心身灵的需要。
    而无论是心思意念中都会时刻为他着想，帮助，支持，扶持对方；不愿对方受痛苦。
    选择让“他/她”能更成功发挥出“他/她”的心愿和梦想；更能找回天父上帝与“他/她”的关系和使命 。

  • Esther~如凤

    。。。”爱”与”痛”~是离不开的。。。
    。。。有”爱”就一定会有”痛”。。。

    “爱”会随着岁月扣分吗？还是加分呢？？？
    或是”爱”到”痛”了~还是觉得”痛”得很有满足感呢？？？
    “痛”时你还会选择再继续想爱对方吗？

    若答案是YES!
    你是真心爱过对方了！！！！

    如果答案是NO!
    那就还没真心爱过~那只是因爱自己，才选择会对差不多适合的对方有深刻的感觉罢了。。。一定会随着岁月而慢慢冷淡。。。

    从创世记到启示录~老爹上帝。。。其实只想对我们表达一句话。。。
    。。。我爱你。。。

    旧约看起来对待人非常严格。。。很多人都经历过无数的”痛苦”。。。
    但如果人不经历过”痛”，那能认识到什么叫真心的”爱”过呢？
    若约伯不经历过”痛”。。。就连他，也同样会经历永远痛苦的地狱。。。

    宝宝成型也是由心开始。。。所以离开也是由心结束。。。
    可见每个人一定要有爱才能存活。。。
    无论是爱自己，或爱别人。。。

    加油哦。。。 :-)
    能爱。。。是幸福的。。。能被所爱的人爱更是加倍的幸福。。。
    爱对方，就要懂得保持自己开心。。。这样，才能带给所爱的人幸福。。。
    若没办法陪伴着所爱的人也没关系。。。有机会看见爱人幸福，也是一件非常幸福的事。。。
    。。。真爱就是那么简单。。。

    • Case

      EnEn^^
      Nice~~~
      Really Nice~~~

  • 蒙恩人

    其实爱一个人真的不容易咯..既然很爱他,会喜欢听到他声音,关心他,渴望每天都看到他..会告诉他心里的感觉. 最后,会为他死,就好像天父爱我们为我们死…

  • Winnie

    当我很爱一个人的时候，
    我会时不时都在想他，关注他，想知道他现在好不好，在做什么，等等
    当我遇到开心的事时，就很想马上与他分享。
    他做了我不喜欢的事情时，我都会包容，还是对他很好。
    我关心他比关心别人还要多，
    他伤心难过的时候，我会去陪伴他，看有什么我是可以帮得上忙的。
    他生活上遇到了瓶颈，我会给于我的意见，（好让可以让他做参考)
    他做了什么决定，我都会支持他。(当然是要对的)
    。。。 。。。
    我想这是我其中爱人的方式。

  • http://yahoo.com Janicemoh

    when you are teenager, you fall in love without thinking much. when you are 20 -30 years old, you put your career 1st, thinking want to see more of the world not cling to family life, baby etc.. when you are 30 to 40 years old, you are anxious and nervous that you cant find a partner. But many can get marry at this stage. When you are 40 years n above, you are scared to find a wrong person, and there are realistic measurements here and there, where you loose gut to pursue it, only wishing God will help! Oh dear! Measure too much, you loose count what you really want, and time flies……….. going to 50 years old and above,no more hope and just say ‘just forget about it’ and go on….still God , where is my another half,please drop him/her in front of me, ok? Life is so………….,you fill the blank as you like!!!i prefer my grand parents old fashion type of match-making, no need to think, just take it, so nice…..ha….

    • http://gmail.com john

      Hai, Janice,
      You are interesting, really. My type of intelligent girl.
      Dont worry, you dont have to match-making to get a partner, guys like
      wise lady like u.
      God bless.

  • http://gmail.com mikeling

    I just returned from Port Dickson for a 2 weeks holiday yesterday. Praise the Lord. I did share earlier on how i lost two girls I loved secretly due to my ‘chicken’ behaviour last time. To my amazing shock, I met the 1st girl I lost at Port Dickson. I just wanted to say ‘hello’ and tried to be bold to greet her. Thank God, she is still available and still has feelings for me. We chatted and later she did mention ‘my chicken behaviour’ hurted her much that she erased my name from her heart last time. Thank God, God is giving me another chance to grasp my future partner only I had boldness to express my love for her. Guys, this is my message , ‘Dont ever easily give up on the one who is special to you,check your heart again & give a 2nd chance to her and yourself! Forget all the hurtings, ASK, and you will be amazed how God wants you to do! Next Jan 7 ,2011, she will be my wife until my last breath. Thank you, God. HALIALUYA! So thrilled! Happy man, thank you God!
    Mikeling, SIB, Miri
    (Pastor, I love to see your blog as introdued by my friend in Kuching. Hope you dont mind my sharing. Thank you. )

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000349727253 Alison Yu

      Wow…how romantic! Congratulation! Wish you and your 1st girl live happily ever after. God bless.

  • http://hotmail.com jane

    1st cut always the deepest. Many of us always long to go back to our 1st love when we were young. However, most of us did not marry to the 1st person we loved. Along the way, we meet someone who we think he/she is the right person, but if we keep on comparing to our 1st love, we cannot really open our heart to love the 2nd one who is the real one to hold your hands until the end. Dont dwell on to the past and be brave to love someone you really want to share the future years with him/her. You will find out that life is still so beautiful when you treasure the 2nd one and have a new family of your own. And that is what God wants you to have.

  • http://yahoo.com david

    David: Pa, how do you know that mum is the one for you?
    Pa ;Well, she is not really pretty when I first met her, but there is something else that
    attracted my attention. I began to long to see her or passed by her house gradually
    to see whether I could bound to her. I did not know Jesus then, I could not pray like
    you do now.
    David: Prayers definitely helped, but it is very slow lah. How then?
    Pa :I got tougue tight and my hands freezed when I met her. I watched her from far
    distance and that particular night , I could really sleep well. He…, but this was a very
    ‘lau ya’ old fashion way…….but I worried about her to be chased by other people..so,I
    learnt from your grandpa, write letters, good one, I copied one of them and I won
    your mother’s heart, not bad hum…he….you can borrow the letter from your mom, she
    still keeps it ……you know………….I forgot all what I copied…..sorry………..

    • Heidi

      Hahaha..i like this very classic. :)

  • http://yahoo.com george

    Loving a person , there is not limitation on the followings:-
    1)Race
    2)Country
    3)Age between two persons (preferably not more than 10 years’ difference)
    4)Background
    5)Appearance(height, weight etc….)

    Anymore? But these are the basic for all……religion may be ? for Christians ……..
    The most important foundation is ‘LOVE’ between two of them. Love him/her without any
    reasons, but merely from the bottom of your heart…….just have the desire to be with the person for the rest of your life on earth. But dont fall for/envy of the married one, that’s the law of God!!!!

    God will bless you when you have found that person, dont let go eventhough there are obstacles, hindrances, misunderstandings, hurtings, unavoidable separation……..every
    trial we face, there must be a reason. Just remember, God is always with us! Our God is so good, He knows who you love, who is in your heart, every feelings in you etc…Praise our Lord! May God bless all singles with a life partner……

    from uncle George & untie Susie,Spore South Bridge Road

  • http://hotmail.com jane

    Dont dwell on to the past!
    Intelligent and smart lady/man will not stay on with you if the past love still cannot vanish from your heart. They will flee!
    UNLESS, YOU DONT MIND TO END UP WITH A SIMPLE-MINDED PARTNER FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, NOTHING INTERESTING TO COMMUNICATE WITH, THEN BETTER
    STAY SINGLE!
    Choice is in your hands.

  • jessica visoma

    Pastor you promise to share with us who is the girl that you love after your receive 50 comments ??? come on we want to know it……

    • http://gtlim.com gtlim

      I think you had better read properly again, did I ever promise to share about a GIRL that I love??

      • jessica visoma

        Ups sorry Pastor for my wrong imagination n curiosity ha ha

  • http://hotmail.com jane

    Dear Jessica visoma,

    Please dont really wanting to dig the answer as it doesnt affect you at all. Whether the pastor answers or not, it does not matter. It’s fun to learn from various facts of life, different people’s way of thinking and concepts about loving a person. It is a very wide and interesting topic for all to learn and share as a human being, with God at our side. I gave comments not to hit the number given, no, it’s merely to share my experiences to give light to someone who is lost in this particular part of their life. You must be very young, just enjoy your wonderful teenager life and learn.
    Dont feel hurt, alright! God bless.

    • jessica.visoma

      Thank you so much for the advice I”m very appriciate it sorry what should I call Misss or Mrs or Madam Jane….. once again tq Jesus
      Love You

  • Bee How

    in order to love someone, we must be able to love ourself first. then only are we able to love others. We must be able to love unconditionally like how Jesus loves us than only will the relationship be able to last…….. I’ve been married for 23 years and it’s getting stronger becoz. Christ is in the centre of our relationship. We are also trying to inpart this to our children. We must be confortable with each other, and we don’t need even to talk, yet we are able to know what the other party wants. Love where each other are one in Christ.

    • Angie

      Blessed be your Family Garden of ‘EDEN’ on earth. And I lived in one same too. I aways named it “BLESSED”, bcos its from God. Be all Glory to our Lord Jesus Christ, its bcos of him that we’re able to “LOVE IN TRUTH” and to live in one binding heart. Sometimes I wonder why some of my friend’s family come up so different and only then I realised that its all depends on who & how the so called “HOME” was built.

      Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labour in vain（Ps 127:1)

      They are abundantly satisfied with fullness of your house, and you give them drink from the river of your pleasures. For with you is the fountain of life; in Your light we see light (Ps 36:7-9)

      What a shame but to share it here that, I was once drifting far apart from God and ditched my pasture land in the Eden. As I recall, it was all the hallucinating experience! My beings been transformed and get bogged down into someone isnt my real resemblance and there I find no peace in me, Yea.. It stinks !! I wail and wail and eventually come crawing back to our Lord to live in the “Family Garden of Eden” again. Ha..Ha..Ha.. what a stupid act !!

      Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it full-grown, give birh to dealth. (James 1:15)

      Thats why your application here in God’s principles would caught my attention, I could not contain my joy in the Eden again and the joy just overwhelmed me that I am not going to part anymore and I just want to praise my Lord. As JESUS LOVES; we are able to Love. Thank You Lord Jesus Christ for all wonders that you have done on us all. Amen !!

  • 安琪儿

    哇！好一个话题哟！！我的见解是~~~
    爱~~源于真神，爱是一种深厚，真实又忠心的互相情感关系。要“爱”人，自己必须先据备成熟的认知 ~ 要有客观的办别能力及和谐（尊重）。愿意以“主耶稣”为核心并持感恩的心，诚心尽力地去关心，了解及提供对方 – 灵，魂，体，所需的健全，以便对方能以最佳荣耀神的状况来赴行 他/她 生命中的陆程。。。

    许多人误认“爱”是很想念对方。。？为对方做许多事。。？并求回报。。！其实那是 “私欲”！不是爱 ！，人是有感情的动物，您的真心，对方自然感受的到，无须刻意求对方爱您，因为 他/她 不是木头人！

    也有人会“爱”或爱上对方是因为对方拥有俩颗兔牙？？ 哈！（那是梦想）！！！如果那一天。。他/她 的兔牙掉了，您还爱 他/她 吗？若不；那您当初对 他/她 知迷所誓诚诺又做何解释？何感想？还算数吗？

    • 安琪儿

      爱是柔和与谦卑，不存私心，不溺爱。爱是给于自由又有深厚的默气感。

  • http://gmail.com john

    Angel,
    Please teach me, how to sense it when a person loves you, not include parent’s love,friend’s love,I mean love a person who will be your life partner?

    Based on 2nd paragraph of your comment, how to sense it, when you do not get a confirmation?
    No need to ask she/he to love you back? How will it going to progress?
    Then,why do u want to love him/her in the 1st place?God created us, Jesus went thru’ all emotionals being a human being,we are not logs or wooden?

    3rd paragraph, even so difficult to understand,loving a person not based on a tooth,or a pimple on a face,right, I dont get it?
    How to sense and how to love like these?God created/ loves us to have fellowship with Him to tell Him all our emotions, problems, and to tell Him we love Him as well, you see, that’s why our prayers are important to Him. Telling and asking Him!
    I often told my pa & ma I love them, no talking, how to express?
    A girl keeps buying things for u, cares about u,that’s doesnt mean she wants to be your wife. It’s might be a closed friend relationship.

    Your way of loving is too artistic and very shrouded in mist. Teach me cos I am really lost!

    • 安琪儿

      噢！对不起，我上一篇概括式的“感情论 vs 您的“解读论”出现了出入，也没关系，我再做解释。瞧！上帝创造我们都那么独特，就连思路也不同。。哈！！感恩吧！！

      据了解，您对此篇的解读范围是围绕在“感情开始階段”因而百感疑惑，而我所讲诉的是“感情已经相对稳固”的階段。也就是进入深交，默气十足之階。这样的情感是由俩颗“真心”一朝一夕细心经营，才能继续升温。At this stage, then you still dont sense it? If not, how are you going to reach this summit? besides, you did mentioned about “no talking? Wau !! without verbal communication, how to get start the confirmation Ah? And without confirmation, how to progress then?? On the other hands, would you like hearinfg a wife of nonsense talks for 10 mins or a wife who talks with wisdom for 15 mins ? thats why I said of those who keeps begging for “Love confirmation” isnt a wise act and yet so lack of self confidence in it. 语言表达是非常重要的。只是我们应该多强调运用祂的质量（Quality / Values) rather then 数量（Quantity). 其是；话多（废话，闲话}，不如话少（有意的话），话少不如话妙（有智慧的话）。

      As for the prayer that you have mentioned, I would said as such : 有信心的信；才是信，没信心的信；不是信。（James 1:6-8)

      • 安琪儿

        哦，忘了回答这个。。

        之於兔牙的比喻，我只是想指明一些虚伪的感情，比如；付带条件的爱，有些人会爱对方是因为 eg. 对方很迷人？ 有钱 ? 等。。实问这个动机能荣耀神吗？

        凡事我们都可以做，但不都荣耀神或造就他人。

      • http://gmail.com john

        Angel,
        Dont u think one of our functions of our mouth is to communicate, even when 2 persons are husband & wife?
        Your sense of loving is not practical to me, thank God , my
        girl friend is not you, otherwise, I will always turning my head
        around the’ round-about’… hehe, dont feel hurt, sorry.
        My saying of confirmation is during the ‘courtship’..my dear..
        sometimes, even in a marriage, otherwise, will be boring, without talking, just sensing….ha . When a person talks, then,
        u can detect his/her wisdom and intelligence level, unless only
        thru writing. Sensing really need spiritual practice. I cant do it!

    • Alison

      hahaha..John, you are cute…

      • 安琪儿

        Whatz….?? Well again, John you hv mistaken my meaning, Lo…Lo…Lo…!! , I am not saying that I dont talk…ok!

        Wanna shared you a pce of scripture :

        Proverbs 17:27-28
        A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even tempered. Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.

        It is not so much about talking, but rather ; WHO are we talking to? WHY we talk? WHAT we talk? HOW we talk? WHERE & WHEN? Cos all those elements are inter-related. Think of how you taik to your beloved at home vs in the public? Is there any difference in a way you talk..? etc..

      • http://gmail.com john

        Autie Alison,
        Am I provoking my dear angle on the blog???
        So sorry, angel……I have no intention to get on your nerves, really. It’s that on the comment itself, head and tail didnt
        co-ordinate, very contradict….I cant get your view until now.
        You and I are like parallel one way street, cant never
        understand each other. Bye , angel, have a nice day
        and please dont curse me…….I am a very holy Christian….smile
        please…..hehe

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000349727253 Alison Yu

        Hi Angel, thanks for your sharing….we are here to share….and I believe John is just teasing you…. Well, to make you feel better, he calls me “mother-hen” of Pastor….that is really new to me..hahaha..
        John, I don’t think our sweet Angel will curse you. Angel will bless you to keep your cheerful attitude so she could receive double blessings from God, right Angel? God bless you both abundantly…

      • 安琪儿

        Oooh Mother-hen,

        Its nothing… dont worry, the world isnt going to pot, just kind of – Zrrr… blur-blur-blur in besiegement, spears from every corner and that I am here pending rescue…Ha..ha..ha..

        Sorry everybody, we occupied so much of your precious space in debates and yet draw in conclusion. Henhh! I should have won the match !!

        May God bless all always and forever more… TQ very much.

  • pink

    很久以前，有一个人，他所做的每一件事我都认为是理所当然的。当我被他伤害的时候我的眼泪会流不停的，察了又流，察了又流的。。。有一天，在他离开我的时候，我的每一分每一秒都是在争战。我甚至不惜一切就是为要他回来。做了很多傻事。

    认识主耶稣之后，我悔改了。才发现原来爱可以是如此甜蜜，如此平安的。当我不开心的时候我可以向他发牢骚，问问题。或可以很担白的告诉他我的感受，又可以很相信他不会说出去的。他教会我如何去享受他的爱，也让我学会把他给我的爱分享出去。。。我想，爱就是。。 歌林多前书13：4－8。。

    （BTW： 他会不会就是那位旧同学，那位为你写下哥林多前书13：4 。。爱是恒旧忍耐。。的那位故友）

    • sue

      i think the person that Pastor Lim really deep in love is GOD.. Right Pastor?

  • delight of the Father

    hahahah ^0^ – lol – i was “roaring” about Mr Lim’s postings 2 find one with most comments – happens to be this one so i scroll-glance thru & go – start sweating ???????? – majority were talking bout 爱情，初恋，etc… so i had 2 read the title again, then … i can hear burung kakak tua flying by… ^___^

  • me

    对我来说。。除了自己家人，丈夫和孩子，我承认爱是有分别的。。我对父母和兄弟姐妹的爱是。。不会对抗。可以接受他们任何的讲评。对于丈夫和孩子的爱，是每一天都想为他们预备最好的生活需要。。可是相处在一起难免有很多争吵，当孩子不听话，老公也不听话。。可是爱却能让我们彼此包容接纳，不会轻易就离开，永远把我们连在一起。。而对外人，在主里的爱是当然有的。。只是永远不能比爱自己家人来得更亲密。主里有弟兄姐妹的爱，但还是会让人分开。。曾经以为在主里也有像亲兄妹一样的爱，但证实了是不实在的。。另外，男女之间不会有好友的关系，更不会有干兄弟姐妹之类的关系。所以爱，还是不要要求回报。。

    • http://gtlim.com gtlim

      我不全然赞成。我发现尽管再怎么爱自己家人，如果他们选择抵挡神的旨意或选择违背神，那这关系也会有一些隔阂，地上亲情可能还在，但无法再加深，除非你爱家人胜于神。这是亲身体验。。。

      我也相信主里还是会有永恒性的弟兄姐妹，之所以会出问题或有隔阂是当其中的成员选择用人的想法或感觉，而不要全然投入上帝的旨意或单纯相信神的引领，所以距离才会越来越远。这也是亲身体验。。。

      • Alison

        me, I can only tell you that I find it the other way round…I could find real love in our church.. Love that I could not find at home, I found it in our church..the brotherly and sisterly love. Pastor is like a father guiding us through our daily life. My relationship with my brothers and sisters in church is even better than my own siblings. When I am in trouble, it is church brothers and sisters who were there for me. There was once my house was broken in, it was a couple from church who came straight away to help me to fix the door and keep me company. Later another couple from church who gave shelter for me and my baby…oh, I am a single mum..they took me into their home and gave us shelter for about 2 months. How could I not appreciate their love for me? This is what I call true Godly love.
        What Pastor say is very true, without the love from God, there is a barrier…just siblings and no real relationship. I would rather spend my time with brothers and sisters of Christ. It is my own experience.

  • http://yahoo.com catherineng

    Response to ‘me’s comment:-
    Ya, all you said are really ture. Pity is church members’ n friends’ love are very short-term.
    When a small thing went wrong, well, there goes the ‘love’!! That’s why especially the adult
    house group, how you spent an evening gathering, after that, even sometimes, you asked
    for some help, only one or two will really help you from the heart. Sad thing is everybody is
    so artificial in front and not real love in the heart. When you got hurt at a house group, sometimes, you really doubt why Christ Family need fellowship gathering? Absorbing the
    sermon is one thing, doing is another thing, so realistic and untrue. It’s all because of ‘how
    we guard our heart’! Nobody can be like Jesus, even a servant of God, so difficult to jump
    pass the standard of Jesus to love someone not related to you……………..

    • http://gtlim.com gtlim

      Catherine, we are not God, perhaps what you said is true in some cases, but we can’t say in every case, but one thing certainly is true: the “sad” situation will be much better or we can lessen the “sad” situation by making sure we ourselves are not “artificial” rather than judging everyone else is artificial, don’t you think so?

      • Alison

        I agree with Pastor..

  • Alain Leong

    Love is a mindset that commits one person to engage into action that include sacrifice,respect and compromise for the purpose of benefiting the person being loved. It would be useless who’s husband buys her flowers and gifts everyday it he is showing his love through guilt,she may have lots of flowers,gifts or even money,but none of that matters if she don’t feel loved,and the word”I love you”is a lot easier to say than to love that person,because there is no conditions for that person you love,loves you back..