有时候我会想,何必要这样呢? Sometimes I will think, what is the whole point?

当你不断帮他们,他们没察觉,也没说谢谢,好像是理所当然的,你虽难过还是继续帮下去。。。

当你偶尔要教导和训练他们,叫他们做一些事情时,他们就一大堆的理由和藉口,甚至向你发脾气,还不知其实绝大部分的工作你早已帮他们做好了。。。你很生气他们的反应,但还是继续或默默帮下去。。。

当你很生气与狠狠的责备了他们一顿,说干脆放弃了,可是后来他们都还没悔改或道歉时,你已经又默默在背后帮他们了。。。

当你感觉上真的已经很受不了、很受不了他们的态度,可是你还是没离开他们,还是继续帮下去。。。

所以有时候我会想,何必要这样呢?

有时候我也会想,耶稣看我是不是也是这样。。。
那他有时候是不是也会这样想呢。。。?

When you help them continually, they don’t realise it and don’t say thanks, like it is something you ought to do anyway, though you feel sad, you continue to help…

When sometimes you try to teach or train them, ask them to do a few things, and they would have a lot of reasons and excuses, or even get angry at you, not realising you have already done the bulk of the work… you feel very angry at their reaction, yet continue to help them secretly…

When you are so angry and rebuke them severely and say you will give up, but later even before they have repented or apologised, you have already started to quietly help them again…

When you feel you really really can’t stand their attitude anymore, yet you don’t leave them, and continue to help them…

So sometimes I will think, what is the whole point?

And sometimes I will also think, is that also how Jesus sees me…
Then will He think like this too sometimes…?

  • YJ

    This post make me better…

    ;)

  • Fong

    天父对我们的愛不正是这样的吗?人是会放弃,但是天父永远不会放弃。日光之下并无新事。。。!(喂!现在到底谁是牧师?)说是容易啦,要是我遇到不知好歹的傢伙,我转身走了,说:天父,交还给袮了!

  • Josie

    I have only 1 sentence to comment the whole thing.

    Pastor, that is your unconditional love for them…..UNCONDITIONAL.

  • Ngu Soon Hui

    当你不断帮他们,他们没察觉,也没说谢谢,好像是理所当然的,你虽难过还是继续帮下去。。。

    看到这句,我的心很酸,很酸,这正说出了我最近的一段经历。

    在人生中,懂得感恩,明白你好意的人未免太少了,很多都是把你的付出当作是理所当然的,甚至没有像以前付出那么多时还会大发雷霆。

    跟他们说理,他们未必听得进去。有时还干脆发烂渣,说什么就是你“固执”,“碎碎念”才导致我跟你唱反调。

    等到事情无法挽回时才在那里哭天喊地,又何苦?

  • 美丽的羊

    牧师。。。所作的不会是白费的。。。所作的是给在那天上的。。。发自一颗真的心,一颗父的心,那回报是大的。。。如以真心代祷。。。人没说你以看见。。。人没”吩附“你就以代祷了。。。他们会知道的。。。(^_^)

  • wong e -zin

    是啊! 很想如此行…。但爱还是等他回转…像浪子回头的父亲一样…。
    有时候我也会想,耶稣看我是不是也是这样。。。
    那他有时候是不是也会这样想呢。。。?这思考也成在我脑海里…。
    因此在我爱的很有限中,遇见了无限的爱和医治…。
    “十字架上的爱”

  • http://charlene1993@hotmail.com Teresa Ng

    Is not easy to be a Father. Need to have a lots of love,joy,peace,patience,kindness,goodness,faithfulness,gentleness and self-control….Take it easy everything will be alright….Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up….

  • Daniel

    I’m sorry… Thanks for your help!

    • 小羊

      真不愧是设计师,把自己画得跟真人一样帅!哈哈!
      帅哥,从今以后,也要多为”爸爸“着想啊!他好爱你们哦!

  • apple of God’s eyes

    Ps, whenever i think “that” way, God is merciful that He always let holy spirit remind me how i have hurt His feelings all these “donkey” years (not that He can be hurt). Truthfully, whenever i recalled i’ve treated Him worst than how others have treated/ treating me. Then, it makes it lots easier to “let go” “wishing” 4 appreciation along they way of Giving away LOVE… then life goes on & i move on with His strength & comfort (just as you’ve always said ^^) . Jia You !!! the lesser you receive from what you’ve given away = balance sheet adjustment = the amount of LOVE the example of LOVE that Jesus left behind… Unconditional Jesus Gives… till His last breathe without many appreciated Him… but mocked Him till death… & He loved them the same… (m not preaching ah… just sharing…)

    • http://gtlim.com gtlim

      You said : “(not that He can be hurt)”… whatever gives you the idea that God cannot be hurt? You think God has no feeling?

      • apple of Gods eyes

        hahahaha…., wooooooopsssssssss – i KENA TEMBAK ler !!! (said the wrong thing AGAIN har…? ) – hahaha – Pastor …. – not like that lar… i meant to say He is MIGHTY & POWERFUL so who can “harm” Him if He wont let it happen mah… rite…? ^___^

  • 小羊

    这就是“爱”啊!希望他们明白您的苦心。

  • JaydonJoo

    I know they definitely don’t deserve it. I know one of them definitely felt guilty for giving you too much burden. He’s been trying to improve and do the best but still….
    It’s all because of your mercy to them…God’s mercy to us….

    • 小羊

      你们太好命了,有这么严格又慈爱的”爸爸“监督你们,帮助你们。真的要好好珍惜及努力做到最好,我想你们的成功就是他最大的安慰了。平时也要多关心他,站在他的立场多为他设想一下,不要让他生气了。他非常疼你耶!

  • 学习感恩的人

    读了这篇部落格, 问问自己是不是”他们”这样不感恩的人呢…我祈求上帝保守孩子的心永远是充满感恩, 单纯, 顺服, 受教的心. 这条路真的不容易走….孩子有太多的地方要学习进步!
    期待将来站在十万人的舞台上把荣耀归给我们的上帝和亲口感谢孩子生命中的恩人….’他’…

    • 小羊

      ”爸爸“已为你们铺了路,你们尽管放心跟着走吧!这条路虽不容易走,但已踏上了,就要坚持到底!不要看背后,同心向着标杆直奔吧!。。。。。十万人的舞台。。。。。不是梦!到时要记得你说过的话哦!

  • http://rambochai.com rambochai

    突然想到自己怎么那么小孩子- 不够敏锐 – 没有用脑 –

    每次不会认真看待事情的层次。没有问题发生,就当着‘本来如此’ –

    一下有问题才发现原来活在福中不知福。

    你经常提醒我们要学习感恩,谦卑顺服,受教 。。。
    还有就是- 做事情要用脑等等,有时候,我就是没有用脑而闯了大祸。。。
    做错,才自觉惭愧。

    对不起,有时候让你生气又担心了。。。

    • http://rambochai.com rambochai

      我会努力-加油的-

    • 小羊

      学习成长吧!有这么一位”爸爸“教导你们,不离不弃的扶持你们,真的要感恩啊!为免再让他生气又担心,今后做事就要三思而后行咯!你一定会更优秀的!加油!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000040064237 WiNd.jOo

    只有一句话想说…真的很感谢主,我们有一个这么好的牧师…^^
    对不起,也很谢谢你…

  • davidQ

    一切都不会“太迟”。。 “例外”的背后不单只有正面,但也附有许多的努力,争执,教训,舍弃等等。。 这篇部落格说中了许多人吧。。 就是有这“爱”,我们才有今天。。 不是吗?没有这“爱”相信已经干脆放弃了.. 现在我们大家一起加快脚步努力学习成长吧。。。

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000349727253 Alison Yu

      I agree with DavidQ, Pastor has done so much for us, teaches us so much and yet sometimes we do not appreciate it and still hurt Pastor’s feeling. No wonder Pastor got fed up sometimes….>.<
      Sorry Pastor, I will try to improve. Thanks for what you have done for me and Chris….we shall always respect you and be grateful to you.

  • Daness

    牧师,无条件的爱就不会受伤害,真心的付出,不要有任何的回报期待,你就会看到很多奇迹般的事。。。。

    • http://gtlim.com gtlim

      对不起,我不赞同这一句”无条件的爱就不会受伤害”。。。就连耶稣,他既是神也深俱人性,有人的感觉和情绪。从圣经来看,耶稣也会有受伤和难过的时候,然而他的爱却是完全无条件的;重要的是,你受伤或难过后,你决定怎么做,那才看得出你的爱有多深、有多真。。。

      • 美丽的羊

        Amen~~~~~^_^

      • Theresa

        to me, i think unconditional love will get hurt the most :( but ultimately we have to look to God for strength – it’s tough!!!
        as a human being, we all have feeling…

      • XIE

        Unconditional love allows others the right to hurt you. It is not easy to stomach this. Did Jesus demand apologies from those people who crucified him on the cross? No, he forgave them first even though they did not seek forgiveness from him. So like Apostle Peter said: So then, those who suffer according to God’s will should commit themselves to their faithful Creator and continue to do good.

      • wong e -zin

        对!这是健康正确的反应。只要我们定睛眼望创始之终得神…凡事都互相效力叫爱神的人都得意处。阿们

      • GTLim第三代

        施洗约翰的死,耶稣心情低落独自退去安静片刻,过后依然布道行神迹。。。这就是解说。。。

    • Ngu Soon Hui

      无条件的爱也是会受到伤害的。

      其实我的爱也很“现实”,对一些人,我会开始时是无条件的去爱。可是,但我发现到他不值得这个爱的时候,但我发现到他辜负我的爱的时候,我会把我的爱收回。

      因为有爱就有可能受伤,我是不想自己再受到伤害,所以我会把爱收回。

      我相信很多人都跟我一样(我们都是人),虽然我们的理想是“爱一个人不计较那么多”,可是,被爱者也要“识做”,不要做一些伤害爱你的人的事。

      当一份爱失去了,被辜负了,还有可能回到从前那样吗?恐怕不能,一切都如水过无痕,再也找不回了。

      再也找不回了。

  • Theresa

    This is a reminder to all of us not to take things for granted – we must constantly be aware of our behaviour. Always be contented and give thanks. Don’t complain too much. Always view things from the other view point.
    Most of time we hurt the people most are our family members or friends who are very close to us because we take them for granted – neglected their feeling by thinking “it should be like that or it has been like that”.

  • Candy Hee

    我真的很敬佩做牧师的,要牺牲很多,承受很多,付出很多等等。如果我们心痛的话,上帝的心比我们更痛。我相信这都是上帝的安排。林牧师,一定要加油哦!

  • 蒙恩

    看了以上的文章很感动.但不能做些什么..好像我身边也有这样的人咯.其实,每个人都不完美的,有缺点也包括我自己. 但求上帝怜悯.. 前面的路还很长,不要放弃,上帝会一路与你同步.

  • JT

    有时候我也是会有这种感觉。
    帮他那么多,处处为他着想,他还是伤你的心。。。。。。。

  • Winnie

    牧师的这篇文章,我看到后很惭愧,因为我本身其实很幸运,
    怎么讲呢?上帝真的对我很好。
    我的第一分工,也就是我现在做的工作让我在这里遇到了一位好老板。
    之前不认识他的时候,觉得他很凶。
    但他其实对我们员工很好的。
    他教会了我很多做人的道理,让我看到,知道,尝到了很多我以前都不知道的事情。
    但我的小姐脾气,其实还没有完全的改掉。
    在他教我的过程中,我时常让他生气,失望。
    可是我真的不知道该怎么控制。
    所以,我觉得我真的是太伤他,让他失望了。
    我很对不起他,他教了我这么多,换来的只是无理取闹。
    我很的很惭愧。
    但我不想破坏他对我的期望。
    我想努力的做出成绩。
    我不想他一次次的对我失望。

  • http://yahoo.com peterkong

    Taking charge of a band is not easy even though all are your sheeps for the time being. But for longer run where monies are involved, people will change and more heartaches and hurtings will emerge gradually. Be prepared for that, we are all human beings, not God. Jesus was very hurt many times as well, but it is difficult for a human being to be like Him. He had a calling from God to fulfill the Will. Sometimes, setting up your own family is very worthy because they will be your own flesh and blood, but yet there is exceptional who will hurt you and not appreciate you as well. But, yet your very own family will be 1st one to support you when you are in trouble. That’s for sure. How many people in this world will be like Jesus, no one!! Appreciation and gratification are vey important issues for a true christian! Jesus(in heaven),our parents(not all) have unconditional love for us only.

  • murasaki fish

    因为爱;因为耶稣也是一样。

  • http://marlenelo.blogspot.com marlene

    这篇文章,很像是我经常有的心情和感觉
    但是… IS OK :) – 因为做在任何一位弟兄身上,就等于做在耶稣身上。
    虽然他们不会有耶稣的反应,但是IS OK…. 因为他们不是耶稣 :)
    累了,就休息一下。
    总有一天他们会遇见上帝 :)

    耶稣也是这样对待他所爱的我们。有时候他一定比我们更”bek chek” :)

  • http://hotmail.com ericsim

    Appreciation and gratitude come naturally from our heart, not by force, reminders or by scoldings! Then, it will be considered as TRUE EXPRESSIONS!

    • Mewwy

      Agree

  • childofGOD

    2 Corinthians 5:20 “We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making His appeal through us”

    Just to share what I’ve learned over the past few weeks from the word of God and please correct me if I am wrong (except for the grammatical error….hehe). Something I would like to keep myself reminded.

    As the child of God, we are the hands and feet of Jesus in the earth. We are His ambassadors to carry out His marvelous work for those in needs. As we owe our lives to Him, therefore our storyline is not all about ourselves. When we think that what we do for others is for God alone and out of God’s unconditional love, things would be so much easier. It is not so much on the rewards or appreciation we get from others, not so much on how it makes us feel, but what matter most is that the things we do, it pleases God and as it pleases God, each effort made will been accounted for in the book of Heaven, not a single of them will be omitted as our God is a perfect God. Everything we do, we commit it to our Heavenly Father and that I think is the whole point!

    Having said this, I prayed for God’s wisdom to be able to acknowledge His blessings through the work of others and always be quick to give God the credit.

    God bless!

  • http://gmail.com mikeling

    Jesus served His disciples and all the sinful men on earth and HE is GOD! And I see this situation that the boss is serving the employees. But there must be a limitation. Right?
    I once heard an old pastor that he served his wife inorder she would not leave him. He is using Jesus’s point of view to do what he wants to do to the wife. In return, the wife loves him and precious him. I asked him how about some one not your own wife? He could not answer but mentioned that the wife deserved his serving. So, precious someone who is not closed to you serving you and give thanks. He should waste his time to serve the wife he loved. We are all Jesus’s precious bride, that HE only served. Churches also His Bride, remember that. Someone not your special love served you, you should give thanks and show some respect of appreciation!

  • victoria chin ping ping

    Be care , be love , be teach , be scold… Sometime d feeling is good.. At least we still notice tat their are some who still care abt us..

    Everything had done is wouldn’t waste .. Bec i believe u will see d result..

    :)
    good post pastor

  • http://deleted 绣芩

    **晓薇的留言。。。

    牧师,谢谢你写的这一篇话,让我想到了妈妈在心里默默给我们的爱。当我做错事时,他就会打骂我,可是我会很生气的向他顶嘴。但是,妈妈不敢在脸上泄露他伤心的表情,只好藏在心里。我能感受到,在他的心里其实是那么地伤心。所以,我应该向妈妈说声“ 对不起”。

    **思薏的留言。。。

    这编(篇)作文让我看到很感动。我觉得这位默默付出帮助却没有半句怨言的这个人真的很伟大。他的付出,不论对方是怎么样的反应,他还是无怨无悔的照顾他们。他的耐心,不放弃的继续教导,我真的好佩服他啊!他真伟大!耶稣也一定很爱他!

    **佩璇的留言。。。

    当我看到这篇短文的时候,我差点儿掉下了眼泪,太感动了。也让我想到了我曾对妈妈的无理取闹,乱发脾气。记得有时侯,当妈妈叫我帮他做家务时,我就会大发脾气,可是,妈妈还是依然的爱我,照顾我。当我有困难时,妈妈一样的继续地帮助我,当我向他大发脾气时,妈妈虽然没当一回事,当我知道他是很伤心的,只是不想让我知道而已。有时我会想想,我为什么要这样对妈妈呢?同时会有一大堆的问号出现在我的脑子里,我知道是我错了,我不应该这样对妈妈,我真后悔为什么不听话。看了这篇短文,我想现在在妈妈还在的时候向妈妈道歉,应该还不会“ 太迟了。。。太迟了。。。”了吧!我决定从现在开始,我要好好的孝顺父母,做个听话的孩子。求主耶稣指引我的方向,不断的教导我做个好孩子。