以小人之心度君子之腹。。。To gauge the heart of a gentleman with one’s own mean measure…
Sometimes certain pictures seem unclear or blurred, and we cannot see very clearly, then we had better not simply jump to our own conclusion… but somehow human beings tend to be more inclined to conclude negatively!
What is worse, an originally noble act can be misinterpreted by some suspicious people as something horrible, and consequently tarnishing the good reputation of some noble people…
There is a Chinese proverb that says:
“To gauge the heart of a gentleman with one’s own mean measure” meaning: Judging unfairly a noble person with own despicable mind.
This is a very good reminder for all of us!
There was once, a father and daughter, because of their noble characters and good image, were invited on stage for a “prize-draw” programme… There were more than a thousand slips of paper with all the guests’ names on them, the guests would win a prize if their name was drawn out…
The atmosphere was good and happy, many gifts were given away…
But an unnecessary episode happened…
While the programme was in progress, some guests got up and left angrily, and spread some rumour which they thought was the truth, and severely damaged the reputation of this pair of father and daughter!
The fact was these guests saw some scenes and they simply jumped to their own judgement and damaged the reputation of the father and daughter…
During the drawing out of names, the father and daughter team found that the names they drew out were their own name or their family members’… When they saw that, they signalled to each other and smiled and threw the names back into the box without thinking much of it as they thought it was not very nice to take the prize themselves and they had better give others a chance.
But because there were a lot of prizes to be given away, after a while, incidentally they still drew out their family members’ names. When the MC saw that, he said softly to them on stage: Well, I guess God really wants to bless you, just receive the blessing!
Only then, the father and daughter accepted. However, those guests with a “mean thought” spread the rumour and said the father and daughter threw back other people’s names but announced own names to receive the prizes! That was completely the opposite!
So I say:
O people! Do not simply speak when you do not know the truth!
What you see with your eyes may not be the truth, and why must the thought in your heart be something wicked?