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就是喜歡~ Simply like them~



People’s tastes are just so strange, certain things you may like so much but others just do not, and there are things that you just do not like while others do. It can be fashion, music, art, food… or just anything! Guess this is good for in this way everything can find someone who admires it.



In fact, with regard ourselves, there are areas that we like and parts that we do not like about ourselves too. That is why sometimes we seem to love ourselves a lot and at times we seem to hate ourselves! Such is the irony of a human being, very complicated and troublesome.



For example myself, I have taken so many photos, some were taken at the same place and time and yet there would be some that I really like and some that I do not even want to have a second look. The photos in this post are those that I really like, but there are also those taken during the same trip which I do not like at all. What is the reason? The clothes I wore? The pose? The angle? Photographing skill? Or what?



All things said, the truth is, there is only one reason why we like some of our own photos, that is we think we look really nice or pleasant in those photos. Sometimes we would not even care if others think the same, as long as we like them ourselves, haha! Actually, to be able to admire ourselves is any time better than despising ourselves, do you not think so?



Some photographs are very nice or pleasant, whether due to angles or photographing skills, can only reveal one thing, that is: from a certain angle or perspective, we all have moments when we look good. We all actually do have our good points, we all have some values and can be admired by people. If only people can always look at us from that angle or perspective, then they would always admire or see us as pleasant, that would be so good… However, that is not the truth, people instead often use very stringent, cold and critical eyes to view each other, that is why this world is full of conflicts and hurts.



But the most comforting is, our Heavenly Father will always look at us with eyes of loving-kindness, we will always be precious and adorable children in His eyes. If our hearts have more of our Father’s love, we would also have the Father’s eyes and would look at each other with loving-kindness and mercy as well.


她弄我哭了。。。 She made me cry…

As I was driving, I thought about what she said just now, I had a sudden urge to cry, I quickly lifted up my head so my tears would not roll down…




Normally it is her who tells me that her hair has grown long and messy… and she will ask whether I could bring her to do her hair as she knows I am always very busy.
But today I myself had this sudden urge to bring her, so when I went to fetch her, she was very happy, but she asked me this as well: Are you bringing me on your own initiative?
Sigh, I felt ashamed upon hearing that, it must be so rare that I would do something like that for her…





It was during the journey to the hairdresser that she shared with me a topic that kind of made me feel like crying…
She asked my opinion as to where she should be buried? Whether in our hometown with my father, or in Kuching which is more convenient…?
I was kind of taken aback as I was not prepared for this topic. Then I told her the important thing is where we are going and not where we are buried, and I said my little brother was also buried at a different place but he is now in heaven with father.

She seemed to be thinking after hearing that as if she recalled something, then happily and feeling assured she said: You’re right, when your dad was about to leave, I told him to go look for our youngest son in heaven, your dad smiled at me and departed peacefully, we will surely meet in heaven…
I know she is missing dad and my little brother, my brother passed away 33 years ago, but a mother will certainly miss her own child..




Her hair was done, I sent her home…
Driving home alone in my car, I thought of the whole conversation with mum, tears welled up in my eyes…
But I am very thankful, for mum is not afraid of death, but is full of hope, that is the grace for knowing God.



And I thought in my heart as well that I must give mum more time, and to have more initiative to take her out to do things she likes…
Treasure it while we can still breathe…


妈妈的焦急。。。 Mum’s anxiety…



That day I had a slight misunderstanding with mum, I was leading the prayer meeting then. While I was sharing, she suddenly raised her hand to speak…
That is what I am often very weary about concerning mum, because sometimes she just loves to share some testimony at the most unsuitable moment, so I thought what is it again this time?
So I signalled with my hand and gave her that stare to silence her, I did not want her to disrupt the meeting…
Initially she wanted to continue to speak but I would not hear of it. She had no choice but to obediently remain quiet…



After the meeting, I questioned her like a little kid and asked why she disturbed my meeting just now? I said had I not told you before not to simply talk or speak up?
I said that would embarrass me for people might think how come Pastor’s mum does not respect certain situation.
She apologized, then she explained to me as to why she was so anxious to speak…




Actually, due to necessity, these few weeks mum has to move into the nursing home to stay for a month again. Soon after she moved in, she told me she was shocked to find out that a few old people she got to know in there had passed away…
And she was very concerned as to whether they did believe in the Lord and were saved, so she was very eager in spreading the Gospel again this time.

The reason she raised her hand to speak half way through the prayer meeting was because she wanted to tell me, just before she came to the meeting that night, an old lady told her she wanted to believe in Jesus, and asked whether mum could bring the pastor to come pray for her.
Mum said she herself is old and her memory is not good, what if she forgot to tell me and caused this old lady to lose her chance of salvation? She said because she noticed all these old people could pass away anytime, that was why she was so anxious in telling me for fear that she would forget and this old lady might just pass away too, and she would feel so terrible be full of regret…



After listening to her explanantion, I was very touched, she was actually anxious for someone’s soul…
So I comforted her and said: Do not fear, when this old lady said she wanted to believe in Jesus, she had already believed, and God saw that too!
But of course we immediately arranged to lead this old lady to receive Christ too.
I do really have a good mother, don’t you think so?



超配合的妈妈。。。 A very sporting mother…


Though mum came from a tough and poor background, not educated, she has a fighter character and does not give up easily…
Really thank God, she has a sense of humour too, normally whatever I ask her to do, she will be very sporting to cooperate…

Such a shame that few months back, she suffered a fall and broke her bone that hinders her mobility…


Though due to some unavoidable circumstances, she has to temporarily stay at a nursing home for these few weeks, she does not mind at all…
Because there are many old folks to talk to over there, to play games and exercise together etc, and she also constantly shares the Gospel with them, I discover her countenance and mood have greatly improved…

每次去看她一定会跟我讲很多其他老人家的故事,和一些在那边发生有趣的事情, 跟闷在家而抱怨的妈妈截然不同。。。
Each time I go and visit her, she will tell me many stories about the other old folks and some funny incidents that happened there, so different from the bored and complaining mother at home….


And she is full of zeal for our church programmes too. She will take the upcoming Bible test and is very serious about studying for it. Though she knows the special test paper for the elderly are super simple and easy, she said her group leader Ah Bong said it is better to sit for the harder ordinary paper, so she told me she wants to sit for the harder test as well, for the simple reason that she wants to learn to know and write more words! i have to salute her for that! Guess we really have her genes, haha!


Before she entered the nursing home, while at home, sometimes I would wonder why her memory was not that good and she did not seem alert. Now, compare with the other old folks, I realize she is actually very awake, alert and active! Really shows the difference of an old person who believes in Jesus, even the other children who come to visit their parents praise my mum for being very alert and great! Truly thank God for letting me see my mum’s good testimony!

In a few more days, mum will be coming home. May God grant her speedy recovery that she can move around as she wishes again, Amen!

妈在疗养院。。。 Mum at Nursing Home…

Since mid-May mum suffered a fall and broke her thigh bone till now, it has been half a year, the elderly really must not fall as even after the operation, she still cannot walk on her own…

Due to her immobility, these few months my sisters who live in Kuching have been taking turns to take care of and serve her, it is not an easy feat… I can only support in spirit and finance…

But this month, my eldest sister has to go for an operation herself (she is already a grandma herself(, my 2nd and 3rd sister both have mission trips… So when we were at our wits’ end, and after discussing with mum, we all thought the best and safest option was to let her stay at a nursing home temporarily for a few weeks… Consequently she had moved into Kuching Lions Nursing Home even when I was still in Taiwan, it has been one week now and will stay till Jan 13th before she returns to my eldest sister’s home…

We of course studied the facilities, environment etc of the nursing home first, plus with mum’s willingness, before we let her stay there for a while… They have regular meal times, exercise, physio-therapy, training etc, and within just a short one week, there is obvious improvement in mum’s countenance, legs etc…

I visit her everyday, and on my first day I was not used to the environment, so I wanted to contact friends to somehow look for a nurse who can stay at my house to look after my mum and move her back to my place… As a result, mum rejected the idea, reason being: she would feel like a bird trapped in a cage at my place!!!
Hahaha, that is because she has new friends to talk to over there, regular exercise, games and many brothers and sisters who come to visit her, so she feels life is not that boring there!

My sister said who knows in the end she does not even feel like coming home! Haha!
See we photographed ourselves yesterday!

Some saw thw above photo and said I really look like my mum, do you think so? And there are some who think I look more like my dad, what say you? (Dad is already in heaven now…)

已经四个月了。。。 It’s been four months…

It’s been four months since mum fell and broke her thigh bone and been operated on…

The elderly must not suffer a fall as their bones easily break…

The surgeon’s operation was not that satisfactory, till now mum still cannot walk…

But mum has faith that she will stand up and walk, she wants to share her testimony… May God have mercy and heal her, Amen!

Though she is in such a condition, almost everyday or whenever she remembers, she will pray for me…

我妈也会玩自拍! My mum can self-photograph too!

Hey look, how is my mum’s self-photograph skill? She cut me into half!

This one not too bad!

That day, Oct 8th, few days before I flew to Vancouver, I asked my family members to come to my place for a fellowship meal…

Though not every member could make it, we still at least had four generations there that night…

The reason for the gathering was my Canadian sister whom I have not seen for more than ten years came home to see mum, and this is also the first time I met my Canadian brother-in-law…

The last time my 5th sister came back was in 1996, so of course mum is very happy…

Another special thing was, my 7th sister who lives in KL made an exceptional appearance at my house with my Indian brother-in-law too, this is really a miracle, and I believe this is the beginning of more good things…

I have 7 older sisters, and this is our big sister…

It is a pity that my 5th sister just came home from Canada and I had to fly to Canada! But thank God they will still be there when I fly home… (My 2nd brother-in-law took this photo)

我像谁? Who do I look like?


Some say I look like dad, some say mum… then who do I actually look like? May be a bit of both? That will prove I am indeed their offspring… Haha!
Honestly, I should be more handsome if I look like dad, right? He has big eyes, sharp nose, and mine are completely opposite… Haha!
Dad’s nickname when young was actually “Handsome”!

This photo was taken many many years ago, can’t even remember when… look really different now!